Applying Permaculture principles
Using the principles I have intend to make and follow a pattern design with which like a tool, I want to use to improve my relationship with Ohli and children in general.
This will allow us to be benefit mutually and can help me expand our skills to have better respect for the people, the earth and future trades.
David Holmgren Principles
1. Observe and interact
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”
Listen what toddlers are saying from a simple mind and little vocabulary perspective, for example when they say I do not like, this can have endless interpretations like now I don´t desire it, I feel tired, or it could be improved...
If I don't look closely at the context in which they are using basic and simple sentences with their limited vocabulary, I will not understand what they are really trying to say, it will be very confusing and lead to misunderstandings, as thinking that they try to cheat me or they have no idea what they are talking about.
3. Obtain a yield
Enjoy spending time with kids they are great teachers, relate the challenges they put into our life and take advantage as a great inner learning. With each challenge passed is another great satisfaction.
This satisfaction is one of the best yield that I get, nurturing myself by seen how Ohli evolve in the right direction. If we give love to kids they will return it multiplied.
Teach my child how to do something rather than do it for him.
4. Apply self-regulation and accept feedback
“The sins of the fathers are visited on the children unto the seventh generation”
Be aware of the consequences of my own actions. As babies have a virgin mind they are testing new ways to interact without rules or laws, they start to learn to express by mimicking and with this base as they grow they develop new skills to learn to do it by themselves. So if they are gibing to me a stress day I should look at myself if I'm having any influence with my own mood.
Living in community its also necessary to aware everyone about some consequences. If they leave their favorite munchies in the bottom of the fridge, once the kids know how to open it, surprises will happen.
6. Stop producing waste
Ask to the little ones and calculate how hungry they are, so I can better know the amount of food to cook and avoid waste.
We all know that a baby foot print can be huge. Bill M. said once that the biggest problem in this world is every white baby born..., and it's not because the baby but it's from the parents.
The little ones love to consume (they have almost nothing material compared with adults), and I think is important to show them how much important are things and take care of them to avoid waste.
If I buy a toy I want to make sure that this have a minimum of quality, and is not thrown away after two days because is already broken.
7. Design from patterns to details
Give a child the ease of understanding the patterns of each day, children can not reduce speed from hundred to zero. So if I design a pattern where my child knows what is going next, he will be better able to understand what is happening at every moment.
Be informed of the baby phases can help me as a guide, but not been obsessed on the details and leting all children develop at their own pace and style.
8. Integrate rather than segregate
“Many hands make light work”
Give to children the opportunity to get closer to me, think about including them in my everyday life and the extraordinary activities, try to enjoy and share games, work, meals... together as a family.
Babies are communicating with physical, mental and emotional reactions, but are slowly building their own vocabulary and it gradually increases during the first three years. Use simple vocabulary with children and gradually expand on this, be aware that they do not understand very complex words and this can bring misunderstandings. Try to be the one who has to understand them and not backwards.
9. Use small and slow solutions
“Slow and steady wins the race”
Immerse myself in the babies little world and expand myself in it. At first the babies are not aware of their surroundings, parents are their only reality and this little world is where mostly we will interact with them at the first two and a half years.
Patience is one of the things he is teaching me to practice deeper, I try to do not despair wen he do not understand the rush,... Children can read your mood or stress and that can cause concern.
Keep up with my child's learning stage. May take a while till he understand or learn somethings, but just when I think all hope is gone, he get it.
11. Use edges and value the marginal
“Don’t think you are on the right track just because it’s a well-beaten path”
Be their guide giving them the tools to open their consciousness about their needs and those of others, making them understand where their edges are with their interactions with the environment.
When we are little we don't know much about consequences. So adults have to put boundaries and explain the possible consequences.
If they play between them margins the feel more safe and comfortable to express themselves.
And as much as society says, do not forget to love children even if they turn out to be freaks!
12. Use and respond creatively to change
“Vision is not seeing things as they are but as they will be”
Be aware to recognize when my children have moved to a different growing development stage, and change my way to treat them appropriately. It is a non stop process of regeneration of ideas and concepts, that brings a regeneration of actions, habits and attitudes.
The growth of a baby's mind changes faster than fashion, and I have to be there every day to not miss out on what's happening.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”
Listen what toddlers are saying from a simple mind and little vocabulary perspective, for example when they say I do not like, this can have endless interpretations like now I don´t desire it, I feel tired, or it could be improved...
If I don't look closely at the context in which they are using basic and simple sentences with their limited vocabulary, I will not understand what they are really trying to say, it will be very confusing and lead to misunderstandings, as thinking that they try to cheat me or they have no idea what they are talking about.
3. Obtain a yield
Enjoy spending time with kids they are great teachers, relate the challenges they put into our life and take advantage as a great inner learning. With each challenge passed is another great satisfaction.
This satisfaction is one of the best yield that I get, nurturing myself by seen how Ohli evolve in the right direction. If we give love to kids they will return it multiplied.
Teach my child how to do something rather than do it for him.
4. Apply self-regulation and accept feedback
“The sins of the fathers are visited on the children unto the seventh generation”
Be aware of the consequences of my own actions. As babies have a virgin mind they are testing new ways to interact without rules or laws, they start to learn to express by mimicking and with this base as they grow they develop new skills to learn to do it by themselves. So if they are gibing to me a stress day I should look at myself if I'm having any influence with my own mood.
Living in community its also necessary to aware everyone about some consequences. If they leave their favorite munchies in the bottom of the fridge, once the kids know how to open it, surprises will happen.
6. Stop producing waste
Ask to the little ones and calculate how hungry they are, so I can better know the amount of food to cook and avoid waste.
We all know that a baby foot print can be huge. Bill M. said once that the biggest problem in this world is every white baby born..., and it's not because the baby but it's from the parents.
The little ones love to consume (they have almost nothing material compared with adults), and I think is important to show them how much important are things and take care of them to avoid waste.
If I buy a toy I want to make sure that this have a minimum of quality, and is not thrown away after two days because is already broken.
7. Design from patterns to details
Give a child the ease of understanding the patterns of each day, children can not reduce speed from hundred to zero. So if I design a pattern where my child knows what is going next, he will be better able to understand what is happening at every moment.
Be informed of the baby phases can help me as a guide, but not been obsessed on the details and leting all children develop at their own pace and style.
8. Integrate rather than segregate
“Many hands make light work”
Give to children the opportunity to get closer to me, think about including them in my everyday life and the extraordinary activities, try to enjoy and share games, work, meals... together as a family.
Babies are communicating with physical, mental and emotional reactions, but are slowly building their own vocabulary and it gradually increases during the first three years. Use simple vocabulary with children and gradually expand on this, be aware that they do not understand very complex words and this can bring misunderstandings. Try to be the one who has to understand them and not backwards.
9. Use small and slow solutions
“Slow and steady wins the race”
Immerse myself in the babies little world and expand myself in it. At first the babies are not aware of their surroundings, parents are their only reality and this little world is where mostly we will interact with them at the first two and a half years.
Patience is one of the things he is teaching me to practice deeper, I try to do not despair wen he do not understand the rush,... Children can read your mood or stress and that can cause concern.
Keep up with my child's learning stage. May take a while till he understand or learn somethings, but just when I think all hope is gone, he get it.
11. Use edges and value the marginal
“Don’t think you are on the right track just because it’s a well-beaten path”
Be their guide giving them the tools to open their consciousness about their needs and those of others, making them understand where their edges are with their interactions with the environment.
When we are little we don't know much about consequences. So adults have to put boundaries and explain the possible consequences.
If they play between them margins the feel more safe and comfortable to express themselves.
And as much as society says, do not forget to love children even if they turn out to be freaks!
12. Use and respond creatively to change
“Vision is not seeing things as they are but as they will be”
Be aware to recognize when my children have moved to a different growing development stage, and change my way to treat them appropriately. It is a non stop process of regeneration of ideas and concepts, that brings a regeneration of actions, habits and attitudes.
The growth of a baby's mind changes faster than fashion, and I have to be there every day to not miss out on what's happening.
Bill Mollison & Slay Principles
5. Use biological resources
Get organized with other parents with whom we can take turns with the children's care. Sometimes inside my own family or friends circle I can meet other parents in the same situation and organize ourselves to find the extra time to do other thinks.
Find out about the activities in my neighborhood involving children, or search places like parks and playgrounds, where my child can learn to interact with other children and with no cost.
To grow my own baby food recipes in my garden, I can design one bed only to be sure I cover his needs.
Find out about the activities in my neighborhood involving children, or search places like parks and playgrounds, where my child can learn to interact with other children and with no cost.
To grow my own baby food recipes in my garden, I can design one bed only to be sure I cover his needs.
6. Cycling of energy
Try to distribute and store my energy, physical, mental and spiritual. Kids seem to have boundless energy, and if I'm not as high as my child it can end with me.
Organize my´s and my partner´s time, to rest and recover the energy that we'll need to dedicate to the little one, while have quality time as a couple and individual. Is important not to lose those key moments to connect with my partner and reconnect with myself, this way can be recharged our batteries and get on with energy.
Organize my´s and my partner´s time, to rest and recover the energy that we'll need to dedicate to the little one, while have quality time as a couple and individual. Is important not to lose those key moments to connect with my partner and reconnect with myself, this way can be recharged our batteries and get on with energy.
9. Diversity (including guilds)
Use different ways to approach to the small ones and see which of these ways is best for them. Some can learn easier if I use more appropriate communications such as auditory or visual. Try to empower their own personal qualities.
Recognize the best in each child. Just like you they are special and unique, don't stop to use my common sense just because of what society say's about what's a perfect family should be.
Recognize the best in each child. Just like you they are special and unique, don't stop to use my common sense just because of what society say's about what's a perfect family should be.
10. Edge effect
Most of the little ones can absorb me in unimaginable ways. I try to not cross my limits, been conscious about my needs and learn how to self-regulate to find a "middle point" between us, so we don't burn out.
Bill Mollison Principles
1. Work with nature rathen than againts
Although they all have a similar nature every child is different and feels different in the same situation.
Recognize what does or does not naturally and try to don't create a war in wanting them to do things in the way I or society says.
Many times they know what they need so if he is not eating now can do it later, maybe he is not feeling well or is not hungry.
Recognize what does or does not naturally and try to don't create a war in wanting them to do things in the way I or society says.
Many times they know what they need so if he is not eating now can do it later, maybe he is not feeling well or is not hungry.
3. Make the least change for the greatest possible effect
Observe what them motivations are, trust them and let them choose their path being me and other adults only the guide to keep them within a safe margin.
If since we are little we are able to do what we like, with practice, knowledge, and confidence, in the future we will be better prepared to develop ourselves by keep doing the things we love to do.
Adults can dirt the minds of the little ones, wanting to direct or overprotect by what we think is the right direction. You have to let them create their experiences and live without our influence or limit from our own fears created by our own experiences. They don't need to repeat our mistakes.
Observe what them motivations are, trust them and let them choose their path being me and other adults only the guide to keep them within a safe margin.
If since we are little we are able to do what we like, with practice, knowledge, and confidence, in the future we will be better prepared to develop ourselves by keep doing the things we love to do.
Adults can dirt the minds of the little ones, wanting to direct or overprotect by what we think is the right direction. You have to let them create their experiences and live without our influence or limit from our own fears created by our own experiences. They don't need to repeat our mistakes.