My relationship with Ohli
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Communal Interior
Cultural influences, roots, family feelings, communication, language, hearing, speaking, NVC, communicate feelings, thoughts, ethics, religion.
My parents raised me in a family love bubble and I don´t remember having any trauma in my childhood, I remember it as a wonderful time of my life with a nice and romantic vision of what it was to be a dad.
When my friends started to have children that romanticism collapsed, and was clear that I was not ready for it. Only a year ago I had started to wonder about how it would be to embark myself on this great adventure.
My parents raised me in a family love bubble and I don´t remember having any trauma in my childhood, I remember it as a wonderful time of my life with a nice and romantic vision of what it was to be a dad.
When my friends started to have children that romanticism collapsed, and was clear that I was not ready for it. Only a year ago I had started to wonder about how it would be to embark myself on this great adventure.
My new family
Since I'm with him I observe more other kids and parents, and how they react with them kids in different situations.
In my culture my parents generation has lived the transition from a christian religious spirituality to a new awakening towards other spirituality understandings, changing them life as an individual or family. My grandpas come from a hard times after war were give up a family was full of sacrifice and many times by suffering, so this life style still have influence in my parents and in my generation.
When I was child began a time where families have separated and divorces has started to be something common.
After thirty years my generation has already assimilated that very well, single mothers and parents with children in divided families is the daily bread.
In my culture my parents generation has lived the transition from a christian religious spirituality to a new awakening towards other spirituality understandings, changing them life as an individual or family. My grandpas come from a hard times after war were give up a family was full of sacrifice and many times by suffering, so this life style still have influence in my parents and in my generation.
When I was child began a time where families have separated and divorces has started to be something common.
After thirty years my generation has already assimilated that very well, single mothers and parents with children in divided families is the daily bread.
My mother with my sister waiting for my first niece
As I have saw the society when I have get into my 30´s, I knew that was possible that my next couples could be with child, and I have stated to think about if I wanted or if I was prepared in case of this situation happens.
I realize that being most of the time out of my country I'm cutting the roots between me and my family in Barcelona. I miss being close to my mother and sister and I'm sure that they have amazing experiences and opinions to share with me, been very supportive and facilitating me to understand some of the situations and alive emotions.
My father died when I was 18 so I don´t know if I'm following patterns that came from him, and either I'm not having his support or influence.
Since I've been with Ohli my family view has changed a lot, actually I have emerged new emotions and feelings about creating a safe atmosphere around us, a protective instinct that I had never experienced before.
I realize that being most of the time out of my country I'm cutting the roots between me and my family in Barcelona. I miss being close to my mother and sister and I'm sure that they have amazing experiences and opinions to share with me, been very supportive and facilitating me to understand some of the situations and alive emotions.
My father died when I was 18 so I don´t know if I'm following patterns that came from him, and either I'm not having his support or influence.
Since I've been with Ohli my family view has changed a lot, actually I have emerged new emotions and feelings about creating a safe atmosphere around us, a protective instinct that I had never experienced before.
Whith his friend Max
Sometimes I have to control my instinct of protect Ohli from other children influences, like been scary that he will repeat some of the bat behavior. I want to leave him choose with who he want to spend his time while I'm developing trust in his choices, I don't want that because my fears I can isolate his own experiences and affect his perception of reality.
His mother has a key role in helping me to know him better and understand his outside world awakening, with love and patience she always have the tools to control his excesses.
His mother has a key role in helping me to know him better and understand his outside world awakening, with love and patience she always have the tools to control his excesses.
Changing cultures constantly travelling and experiencing different ways of seeing life, has helped us to create our own reality, been more easy to play with the endless possibilities that we know to adapt to the new environments. The traditions that can be absorbed in Thailand or Nepal, Buddhism, Hinduism, Christianity, atheist, ... enrich our own view of religion, faith and spirituality.
He as a rally driver
I love Ohli's social character he can easily makes friends with anyone, but in Thailand the people is extremely affectionate with children, wherever we go there is an overdose of people that literally invades the baby buggy to touch or take pictures of him.
Sometimes too much interaction with others can provoke us stress, specially when he enters in his world. When in his mind he become a rally car driver or a dragon he does not want to to be forced to stop and pay attention to a stranger. Sometimes when he's in over stress from others he can bite or scratch as a frustration sing.
I love Ohli's social character he can easily makes friends with anyone, but in Thailand the people is extremely affectionate with children, wherever we go there is an overdose of people that literally invades the baby buggy to touch or take pictures of him.
Sometimes too much interaction with others can provoke us stress, specially when he enters in his world. When in his mind he become a rally car driver or a dragon he does not want to to be forced to stop and pay attention to a stranger. Sometimes when he's in over stress from others he can bite or scratch as a frustration sing.